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Years ago, I attended the wake and funeral services of a friend, a fellow comedian, who was killed in a car crash. I have been to many wakes, viewings, funerals and memorials throughout the course of my life, but there was something special about this one in particular. Perhaps it was because the funeral was during the holiday season, just a few days before Christmas Eve. Either way, an awareness came over me that day that caused me to cope with grief and view the losses in my life from a different perspective. When the service was over, a group of family members and close friends met at a relative’s house. As I scanned the room, I noticed people wiping away tears and consoling one another. Some were understandably having a difficult time accepting the unfair twist of fate that had fallen upon someone who had so much talent and so much to offer. Reminiscing to Cope With Grief From across the room, I overheard a few comedy friends telling a funny story that I was familiar with. So I...

Her name is Alex Snodgrass, but you may know her as The Defined Dish. The Texas-based food blogger and two-time New York Times bestselling cookbook author has garnered a massive following ( @thedefineddish ) thanks to her laidback cooking style, family-friendly meals and Whole30-approved recipes. In her first cookbook, The Defined Dish , Snodgrass shared 100 healthy and wholesome weeknight meals; in her latest cookbook, The Comfortable Kitchen , she brings a second dose of simple, nutritious foods that anyone can feel comfortable cooking. And coming soon to an aisle near you is Snodgrass’ latest venture, SideDish, a collection of dressings versatile enough to be used as dips and marinades or on salads and bowls. The current flavors—Chipotle Ranch, Creamy Sesame and Honey Dijon—are dairy-free, paleo-friendly and preservative-free with zero added sugar. Snodgrass developed the recipes by hand over the past few years, hoping to make healthy meals at home even more convenient. The b...

In the pursuit of getting rich, people can be consumed with the acquisition of money. Author and keynote speaker Hamza Khan believes the current evolution of leadership is rooted in fear and scarcity of resources, maximizing gains for oneself while neglecting others.  “I’m fascinated by bad leaders . I’m fascinated by socially aversive leadership,” Khan says in today’s episode. “I think my fascination with bad leaders stems from my behaving like a bad leader.” He wants leadership to be reinvented by maximizing human-centric traits, centered around empathy , servitude, diversity and innovation. This week, he and Brilliant Thoughts host Tristan Ahumada discuss the most important skill for the future of work: empathy. Empathy requires asking people to suspend their egos and see the human before the resource. Servitude is empathy in action, the relentless belief in maximizing the potential of everyone on your team.  Diversity leads to better situational awareness and a bett...

It’s almost Dec. 31. Do you have your resolutions ready ? The question is about as hard to dodge as the “So, are you dating anyone?” questions you hear at nearly every family function. As the new year approaches, we as a society tend to do a lot of reflecting on how the last 365 days unfolded. Did we stay in shape like we planned? Were we able to impress our bosses enough to secure that next promotion ? Did we find someone to love, or properly appreciate those we have ? I Don’t Subscribe to ‘New Year, New You’ Although the holidays are a time of joy and gratitude, we often fill the last days of the year with forward thinking, our faces to the horizon, looking for ways to make the following year even better. Phrases like “clean slate” and “starting over” saturate our newsfeeds, along with articles filled with a laundry list of life hacks for self-improvement. And although I love the hopeful eye with which many gaze, I have to admit that I have a problem with the “new year, new you” ...

“What’s worse than the temporary pain of discomfort is the avoidable pain of regret,” says Judi Holler, who has brought her Second City improv training and humor to her work as a keynote speaker, bestselling author, podcaster and entrepreneur. She’s on a mission to increase her tolerance for pain by conducting daily fear experiments and trying to be a bit braver and more authentic today than she was yesterday. Now, instead of asking herself what could go wrong in each new situation, she asks, “What could go right?” Fear isn’t something we can get rid of—and we shouldn’t want to. In many cases, fear is there to keep us safe. But when fear is blocking us from doing what we need to do, acting despite that fear is what builds up tolerance for that discomfort. In this episode, Holler talks with On Your Terms host Erin King about the problem with perfectionism , what improv taught her about bravery and authenticity, and how creating an environment of psychological safety increases our a...

A parent’s financial problems can be a very difficult thing to deal with. This is one of the most difficult situations you may face in your financial life: realizing that your aging parents are in debt . Maybe they were caught off guard by rising medical expenses, or maybe they simply took too many years off from saving and investing. Whatever the cause, they’re going to need help getting their finances back on track, even if they don’t want to ask for it. Discussing their situation may be among the most challenging conversations you’ll ever have—and one of the most necessary. What to Ask Them If your parents are in debt , it can be very tough on your relationship with them. Your biggest challenge is not going to be coming up with a technical personal finance solution for their problem. Instead, it’s going to be asking lots of questions, listening carefully, and deciding if they actually want help, and if they’re ready to receive it. If they do, great! You can help them. But if the...

It’s important to maintain your automated financial system. Every year, I spend a few hours re-reviewing my system and making any changes necessary. For example, have I added subscriptions that I don’t need anymore? Should I adjust my Conscious Spending Plan to account for new short-term goals? Set aside some time every year—I recommend December so you can start the next year off right—to go through each of the steps below. Evaluate Your Conscious Spending Plan Use these as general guidelines, but take them seriously: If your money is following these suggested percentages, that’s a Big Win toward a Rich Life. Fixed costs (50–60%) Investments (10%) Savings (5–10%) Guilt-Free Spending (20–35%) Reassess current subscriptions (cut if necessary) Renegotiate cable and internet bills Revisit spending goals: Are they accurate? Are you actively saving for them? If your fixed costs are too high, it may be time to look at a cheaper rent (or AirBnB’ing a room out, or earning more...